Crisis-prone people are a storm cloud in otherwise calm skies.
They display a pattern of attention-seeking emotions, an excessive need for approval and boredom usually provokes a need for them to stir something up. Some other behaviors may include:
- constantly creating drama
- picking arguments
- thriving on emotional highs and lows
- complaining about being gossiped about
- gossiping themselves
- seeking attention in person or on social media
- taking on a victim mentality
If this resonates with you, know that seeking help through prayer can provide strength and hope.
1. Ask Holy Spirit to guide you on ways to restructure your thoughts and revisit your reactions and responses.
2. Ask God to help you distinguish a real crisis from a manufactured one, and to help you find the rewards in calmness rather than calamity.
3. When you feel angry and resentful, release those feelings to God.
4. When you feel empty, remember your identity in Christ.
Take every thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5) and be slow to anger (James 1:19).
God’s Word is ALWAYS truer than our worldly interpretations, and His commands are right, where our flesh driven tendencies and desires stir us wrong.
Does this sound like a friend or family member? Here is how you can help:
1. Pray for them
2. Have biblical boundaries and a strong heart. Love them but you don’t have to pick up the phone all hours of the night.
3. Lovingly point out the consequences of their crisis prone tendencies
4. Recognize when a discussion is spiraling out of control and redirected the conversation
5. Speak Truth over them, and focus your our heart on God to keep you stable.
And last, but not least:
6. You must forgive the neediness, the overthinking, the lies, and the unwarranted emotional outbursts. You may need to spend some time apart, but use it as an opportunity to seek guidance from God, not out of anger or punishment to them.
“Love covers all offenses”
(Proverbs 10:12, ESV).